In the e-course, Ace Your Interview, I touch on the importance of nonverbal language, also known as body language. Nonverbal language is what helps to create the first impression that we give to people. That takes only 17 seconds, but it is incredibly important! Body language is a most effective communicator. It can give off the impression of confidence, hostility, warmth, coldness, insecurity and competence.
We were at the gym this weekend and I people watched, which is so very interesting. I focused on one particular couple. She was pretty and thin. He was overweight. (No judgment, just observation for description purposes.). He would use a machine and she would follow behind and clean the machine after him. There was no verbal interaction between them, but there was a dance that was obviously familiar to them. I would say the expression on his face was related to his work out. The expression on the wife’s face was one of sad resolve, but attempting to put on a “happy face”. There was so much expressed in their nonverbal language; I concluded that she was unhappy and he was oblivious. Their dance made me sad for them. I know that was an outpouring of what was going on in the intimacy of their relationship.
I was once again at the gym, which is for me a great place to make observations.There area tv’s above the cardio equipment for people to watch. I listen to music, so I just watch the body language of the talk show hosts or whomever is on tv. This morning I watched a very popular talk show host, who has had some difficulties recently. I was really surprised by her body language. She was making herself very small and demure, which has never been her personality. She kept her hands folded in front of her and even crossed her arms at one point. When she laughed, her body language was open and more confident, but overall, it seems that her confidence has been shaken.
Now, I am at a coffee shop and am surrounded by body language examples. Some are making me nervous, due to their body language that seems to be intrusive and anxious. The shaking of the legs and self-soothing behaviors of people whom present as if they are struggling with anxiety create an environment of anxiety around them.
All this to say that body language SPEAKS VOLUMES! The good news is that you are in control of your body language. You can find tips on this in our e-course, Ace Your Interview! Go get it today!
We were invited by our friend Amy Fish to attend the first annual Chris Kyle Birthday Bash, celebrating the 42nd birthday of the American Sniper. We had seen the movie, but didn’t know what to expect for the evening. It was held at Gilley’s in Dallas and began with a barbecue buffet with pecan pie and oatmeal cream pies for dessert….of course, we are in Texas! The National Anthem was a moving rendition by Jason Ashley. The amazing then program followed. The first video shown was one that Steven Spielberg had helped to create. It showed Chris at work and then it showed Chris with his family, sweet moments like teaching his daughter to read. Touching, poignant moments that tugged at my heart. Taya Kyle spoke of her husband, his impact,and their love. She talked about free will and with the freedom do good, people have the freedom do evil. But her belief that God will bring beauty from the ashes and she has seen that. She has experienced enormous support and many blessings, but would give that up in order to have her husband back. Close friends spoke of his loyalty, humility and sense of humor. One of my favorites was his best friend from middle and high school, Bryan Rury. He wrapped up his talk with Romans 12:9-15, which he saw as how Chris Kyle lived his life.
Romans 12:9-15New International Version (NIV)
Love in Action
9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13 Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.
14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
Lastly, Craig Morgan played some great country music. It was a wonderful night!
The Chris Kyle Frog Foundation is working to help military and first responders strengthen their marriages and families. They are doing amazing work with date nights and retreats. For more information, please check out their site https://www.chriskylefrogfoundation.org/about/the-foundation/.
We were honored to be a part of the night and very grateful for those who fight for our freedom.
We got the new Vogue magazine in the mail. I don’t ordinarily look through it, but decided to yesterday. Apparently, fashion today consists of hangry people. I say this because I only counted 15 pictures of people smiling and all the people are emaciated. It was quite eye opening and sad for women of the younger generation. Life can be joyful and eating is a good thing…Vogue does not depict that. On a positive note, there were some yummy fragrances and Chanel has a tagline of “Eyes Speak Volumes”. Maybe we can team up! #speakvolumes
Sometimes it seems like a day is straight out of Alexander and the Terrible Horrible, No Good Very Bad Day. Yesterday, was a day like that. My daughter and I were taking a little road trip. What started out to be a short little trip turned out to be hours of sitting in traffic, line, or things just not working out. First of all, we were stuck on the bridge across the lake for about an hour. We took a detour once we were able to exit and went on our way. Then, we decided to stop to eat in the Bishop Arts District at 11am. There were no parking spaces anywhere and the restaurant we chose was overflowing. So we chose to eat at Hattie’s, which proved once again to be one of my favorite restaurants around. It was calm, had great service, and the food was delicious. That pepped us up and we headed south. We stopped in Waco at the flurry of fandemonium, world famous Magnolia (HGTV’s hosts of Fixer Upper’s store). We saw women running across the street to get a selfie with the Magnolia logo, dragging their light fixtures, home decor and children in tow. It was quite a sight! By then we needed a good cup of coffee, and we like shops the are unique to the area, so we thought we’d stop by the cute one by campus. Once again….no parking! So, we parked in the spot reserved for another business, because we were just going to be a second. No, we weren’t…the line was out the door! Who knew this town was so crowded! We left Waco and again headed south to be in bumper to bumper traffic that Waze showed to be the rest of our trip. I then gave up. Our little trip that should have taken a few hours had already been 5 and looked to be about 5 more. I made an executive decision to abort the mission. We headed back to Dallas and stopped a few places to shop. Then, we went to Trader Joe’s to get a few groceries. The checker asked us how our day was and we told her. Her reply was, “You deserve some chocolate for the day you’ve had”. She brought a handful of choices, and we each chose one. The kindness she displayed is one of the reasons I love Trader Joe’s. It lifted our spirits and put a smile on our faces. We hit traffic again, but with a lighter perspective. Some days are just like that. Tomorrow is a new day!
This has been a mild winter in Texas to say the least. Well, mild by the snow standard, but quite destructive by the tornado standard. Our temperatures have been wonderful these past few weeks and spring seems to have sprung all around us. The warmer weather brings about the notion to start some gardening. We live out on some land, but the city is closing in on us and there is construction within eyesight. That made me want something for my porch to create privacy, grow some herbs or vegetables, and that could be moved (because we are sunset watchers and didn’t want that to be impeded). I thought of a design and the dimensions, then asked my friend Ron Vice if he could build it. And by golly, could he!! He made me the most gorgeous planter out of up cycled wood. I could not be happier with it!
Below are photos of the planter and signs of spring. Happy Monday, friends!
In September, we traveled to Nashville for the Women’s Running 5K and half marathon sponsored by our friends at the Edith Sanford Breast Cancer Foundation. It was a wonderful event that started with Amber Carrington telling her story about her mom, Shonda Gaylord’s journey with breast cancer. She then led the thousands of runners in a beautiful rendition of the national anthem. There were runners of all ages and sizes and all were making a difference for those fighting the battle of breast cancer. We are grateful to those who sacrifice and give of their energy to help others. Thank you to all who helped make this happen and all who participated! IMG_4291IMG_4290
A while back I began making Miranda Lambert’s Mama’s meatloaf. I pinned it on Pinterest, (here is the link http://www.pinterest.com/pin/176062666654072035/) and made it almost every time we had guests. We absolutely loved it! Never in a million years did I ever think that I would meet the creator of this recipe, much less be invited into her home. But both have happened. It’s one of my favorite recipes by a wonderful lady!
This Friday, Amber, her Meme, PawPaw and I were privileged to go to Tulsa to see Dolly Parton in concert. Dolly has been in the fabric of my life since I was born. I am from Tennessee and feel such a kinship with her. I had a pony named Dolly, I dressed up as Dolly Parton for Halloween, and have sung her songs since before I could really speak. This was the first time I have seen her live. She was obviously older, but still had such a spark and life in her. A few things struck me as I listened to her. She was quite reminiscent about her family, particularly her parents. I got the impressions that she misses “her people” and no amount of fame or fortune can take the place of the love she experienced from them. She spoke about different hardships said, “Life is hard”. Even to an icon like Dolly Parton, life can prove to be difficult. Time marches on for all and we only have our God-given time on this planet to make a difference. Dolly Parton has been given talents and opportunities for which she has been a good steward by giving back to this world, and especially her community. I came away with admiration for her, not only as the icon, but as a woman. She will always be a part of who I am and I will always love her. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gS-F4rfU4ns&feature=kp
I wanted to say, “I didn’t quite get that” recently on a flight from Sioux Falls to Minneapolis. This was a very small, very full plane. We settled into our seats and began the regular preflight procedure. Our flight attendant was adorable, however, when she took the microphone to recite the directions for the flight, my friend and I failed to understand what she said. English was her second language and she had not mastered it. As our flight went on, we hit a pocket and had a drastic drop. I looked to my friend and said, “If we need to do what she says, we are in trouble”. We would not have been able to follow her directions because we wouldn’t have know what she was telling us to do. The rest of the flight was fine and we made it home safely. It was another realization that effective communication is vital to many professions in our world.